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This Is My Self-Care Manifesto

I created a manifesto because for the longest time I didn’t feel like I was in control of my life or my emotions.  I was frazzled, depressed, anxious and big mad all the time.  Scratch that.  I was SUPER mad all the time.  Mad because I wasn’t saying “no” enough, mad because I allowed others to dump on me then run, and I wasn’t being honest with myself (or others) about how I felt or what was bothering me.  I covered and concealed everything like a pro which ultimately because exhausting and stressful AF. Let me tell you something, that all went out the window once I understood just how valuable I am.  I stopped agreeing just to get along,...

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A Note To Brown Girls That Were Abandoned

The last time I saw my dad I was maybe 18 or 26 or 21.  Honestly I don't remember.  There are tons of gaps in my childhood and early adult memory.  I love that about her.  That she can remember all the in's and out's of her life which such clarity and detail.  Things like what grade she was in when her classmate ran over her wrist with a backpack.  Which piano recital it was where her class played the theme song from "Indiana Jones."  That one time when she was five and swore that a tall, dinosaur shaped creature with all of it's bones showing came through our living room and sat on our couch.  If you ask her...

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Soon You'll Be Able To Dial 9-8-8 If Experiencing A Mental Health Crisis

If you've ever been in the midst of a mental/emotional health crisis and needed to speak to a trained professional, chances are you had to google the number to reach National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255).  When you are distraught and need help, finding a number is the last thing you want to worry about.  The FCC recognizes this and has proposed a solution that may save lives.  Recently a report was sent to Congress with the recommendation of moving from the ten digit number (1-800-273-8255) to simply dialing 9-8-8 to reach a skilled crisis worker.   According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention suicide is the tenth leading cause of death here in the U.S. resulting in the loss of over 47,000 lives...

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Resting Is Not A Waste Of Time

Thursday and Friday are usually the days that I plan out my weekend and all the things I either need to do or want to do.  I'll get out my journal (or a piece of paper) and a pen then make a list of how I'll spend my time.  On there are the usual things like making groceries, getting gas, going to the post office to mail out orders, etc.  Then there will be things like seeing a movie, going to the park, washing my hair or getting a mani/pedi.  Never have I ever blocked off time on this wondrous schedule (that I've not once stuck to) to take a nap.   Please understand, I AM the nap queen and don't...

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Building Self-Care Habits That Work Part 1

In the last few weeks I've noticed an uptick of comments and messages from our growing self-care community indicating some of us want to develop better habits and/or commit to a self-care regimen but don't know how that looks or fits into their lifestyle.  I hear you sis, and I know exactly where you are coming from. Though self-care may be an "easy" thing to do, say like taking a five minute walk around the block or slipping in some time to journal before bed, it isn't always simple if you don't where these actions fit into your lifestyle, how you can perform them or even why you want to do them in the first place.  Building a regimen felt...

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